Like so many of us well-meaning and caring individuals, we intervene during apparent times of difficulty and struggle, and deprive our loved ones of necessary personal development. Muscle development demands struggle. When that cute little child says,”No, I can do it myself”, It’s a good thing. An intervention of the struggling butterfly to break out of it’s cocoon will risk the flight of underdeveloped wings in this very act of nature.
The value of working through struggle is the reward of needed strength and personal experience to draw from later.
Interrupting the struggle of the butterfly endangers its ability to survive. With every kick, push and bite to break out of the cocoon he gets stronger each moment. Nature teaches us not to avoid some struggles, for you may be sacrificing life sustaining growth.
Every child’s bicycle will get a flat tire. It is a struggle and test of patience for most adults to fix the problem. Many bikes get leaned against the wall in the garage because of lack of experience, know how, proper tools or just the avoidance of struggle to learn or work our way through the process. There is great value when a parent teaches a child and then lets them suffer the struggle of developing needed skills to fix the problem. This value grows when learned knowledge is applied to new challenges like replacing door knobs or replacing the rails on a drawer. Bicycles are the primary form of transportation in other countries like China. To avoid the struggle of fixing a flat tire would be foolish.
The monetary allowance given to a child is usually very small in relation to the finances needed for future sustenance. The decisions made for spending those few small coins and the economic lessons learned are worth more than the money itself. Restraint and exercise of thought to make these decisions are the muscles needed to procure life skills for later on. They are the foundation of one’s personal success or failure. The allowance period is the testing ground for learning to live within one’s means.
Many of the economic failures of our day are evidence to the voids of personal development for so many in our world. Many Christian believers today divide faith and economics into two separate categories of life, or actually into two separate lives altogether. However many attempts by Jesus to teach us spiritual life principles were relayed through monetary parables.
Underdevelopment or lack of strong basic skills in spending or managing our own money will leave gaps and voids in spiritual growth which is often easily spotted by others. He who is faithful over small amounts (such as an allowance), shall be made a manager over large amounts (my own paraphrase). He who avoids the struggle of learning (or is deprived by doting parents and grand-parents) will never be trusted with the true riches. Luke 16:11